Sunday, June 21, 2026
Uh Oh #5 - I Still Want Relationships on My Own Terms

WELCOME   (15 minutes)
Ice Breaker: Have you ever agreed to “terms and conditions” without reading them? What’s the funniest or dumbest thing you’ve clicked “I agree” on without thinking?

 WORSHIP (10 minutes)
Use your favorite streaming service & sing, “It’s Yours” by Matt Maher.

 WIN   (15 minutes)
Pray for people you know who don’t know Jesus as their Savior.

 WORD   (25 minutes)

1. “Jesus doesn’t just get to bless my relationships. He gets to lead them.” Why do we often want God’s blessing over our relationships without wanting His authority over them?
2. Read 1 Corinthians 7:1-5. What does Paul’s teaching about mutual covenant responsibility in marriage reveal about selfishness, control, affection, and surrender? Where do you see “contract language” show up most often in relationships — marriage, dating, friendship, family, or something else?
3. Read 1 Corinthians 7:28 and discuss this statement: “Marriage is good, but it’s not ultimate.” Why is it important to affirm both the goodness and the limits of marriage? What happens when someone looks to a spouse, future spouse, or relationship to do what only Jesus can do? “In marriage, you’re not looking for your number one. You’re looking for your number two.”
4. Read 1 Corinthians 7:6–9 and 32–35. What stands out to you about how positively Paul speaks of singleness? Why do many churches and Christians unintentionally treat singleness like a problem to fix instead of a calling to honor?
5. “The purpose of dating is the glory of God.” How does that reframe dating beyond merely finding “the one”? What are some warning signs that a relationship may be pulling someone away from Jesus? How can a group lovingly help someone see what they may not want to see?
6. Read 1 Corinthians 7:10–16 and 39. “Your story isn’t too complicated for God to use” and “Broken stories still require faithful obedience.” Why do we need both truths? What goes wrong if we only emphasize obedience without grace? How can the church walk with people in divorce, remarriage, abandonment, widowhood, abuse, regret, or complicated relationship histories without reducing them to a label?
7. Read 1 Corinthians 7:17 and 21–24. Paul repeats the idea of living faithfully in the place where God called you. Why do we often postpone obedience until our preferred season arrives? What are some examples of “I’ll obey when my situation changes” thinking?

 WORKS (25 minutes)

• Pray in pairs or triads
• But first, answer this question for each other: Where are you most tempted to hand Jesus “terms and conditions” in your relationships?
• Ask God to show you one concrete step of obedience in your current relationship season. Pray for each other about this!